I was a then-20-year MS Patient...
...and didn't feel...right.
I went - alone - to the ER.
When my then-husband finally showed up an hour and a half later, I was in a full heart 'work-up'.
He had to go to the bathroom. She sent him WAY down the hall to the farthest bathroom.
"IS YOUR HUSBAND ABUSING YOU?", she asked me, as she scribbled a phone number on a sticky note.
"He doesn't hit me.," I said. ??!?
"Your BP shot up to 184/113 the SECOND he came in your room. You now are stroke-level and we have to check that out. That phone number is my ex-husband's divorce attorney. If I had it to do over again, he would be MINE. You NEED to call him."
REALITY CHECK. I 'got' the message this time. After 19 years of ignoring it, and making excuses for him.